Coping With Loss
Those that are struggling with the loss of a child should
always be willing to seek therapy. There are many valuable alternative
treatments and lifestyle changes that can control anxiety, but therapy is the
one place where trained individuals can address your every needs. Few people
like the idea of going to therapy, but doing so can be invaluable, and while
the following tips can help you move forward, therapy or some type of treatment
dedicated specifically to you is going to be the most valuable activity you can
undertake. In the interim, however, you can also consider the following:
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Crafting Your Memories
One of the hardest parts of losing a child is the idea that
you didn't have enough time with them. Even though you know you'll never forget
them, there is also some fear that you will – a fear that you lost someone that
was going to impact your life, and now won't.
It's never a good idea to focus too much on the past when
struggling with anxiety, but you don't want to forget the past either. So give
yourself a project to complete to help make sure that your lost child is given
a memory. Whether it's a scrap book, a collection of stories, a collection of
poems, or a list of thoughts, write down as many positive and loving things as
you can to give your mind that outlet you need to prove to yourself that your
child already had a tremendous impact.
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Planning What's Next
The next step is often harder, but you also need to start
planning a future. As we mentioned earlier, one of the hardest things about the
loss of a child is that you lose your expected future with it. As hard as it
may be, you need to put yourself in a mindset that is ready to move on. Figure
out your next goals. Plan for the future. Give yourself something you're
looking towards so that you're not always looking back.
Expect that this type of activity will be heartbreaking.
It's so hard to think about living a new life, but forcing yourself to not just
focus on the tragedy that's happened is still an important part of moving
forward.
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Remind Yourself of Realistic Expectations
Make sure you're not expecting a linear recovery. One of the
issues that throws people back into their stress is this belief that once
they'll be gradually better over time. But that's not how it works. Some days
will be a struggle, others will be easier. Realistic expectations are the only
way to make sure that you don't start to assume negative thoughts about
yourself as a result of your emotions.
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Stay Busy
Finally, the most important tool for coping with loss is
time. You need to make sure that you're not lost in your own thoughts, since
unfortunately your thoughts are often the enemy of coping. Healthy, enjoyable
activities may feel like you're forcing yourself to move on more quickly, but
they'll take you out of your mind and are an effective way to let time pass
without making your anxiety worse.
Learning to Control Stress From Loss
You can't simply stop anxiety
whenever you want. But you can take steps to control how much it affects you.
Therapy and effective help options are the most effective strategies, but the
above ideas will also help you make sure you can control the way your loss
affects you both now and in the future. You deserve it to yourself to move
forward.
About the Author: Ryan Rivera has seen the way that loss
affects many couples. He writes about ways to stop anxiety at Calm Clinic.
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